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Numbing is Dumbing

Posted by on Nov 3, 2014 in Addictions, Blog, grief | 0 comments

Numbing is Dumbing

Right from the start I want to tell you that I dislike the title for this post.  Yes, I crafted the title.  It rhymes and it is provocative.  But it also lacks understanding and compassion.  There are reasons that many people turn to drugs, alcohol, sex, food or maybe just checking out in front of the TV or computer.  Sometimes life feels too overwhelming to handle. The message that seems to be prevalent, particularly in song lyrics, is that escape is better than reality. Tears well up in my eyes each time I hear the song “Habits” by...

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Staying Strong

Posted by on Oct 17, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

When going through difficulties, we seem to always hear someone tell us to “stay strong.” When this is said, it seems to translate into: “grit your teeth, stuff your emotions, and get on with life.” While there is value in being encouraged to keep going and not give up, this way of thinking can be problematic. We need time to process our emotions and listen to our inner voices. By listening to our vulnerabilities, our disappointments and anxieties, we provide a safe space for those hurt parts of ourselves to begin to...

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Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Posted by on Oct 9, 2014 in Blog, Marital Counseling, Uncategorized | 0 comments

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  Domestic violence is defined as the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another.  Did you know that on average, nearly 20 people per minute are victims of physical violence by their partner in the US?  During one  year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.  It is truly a silent epidemic in our country,  continuing to...

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September Is Suicide Prevention Month

Posted by on Sep 9, 2014 in Blog, Christian Counseling, Depression, grief, loneliness, Suicide, Uncategorized | 0 comments

September is Suicide Prevention Month. Sadly, it lands just one short month after the world lost one of our most beloved entertainers, Robin Williams.  Suicide prevention is about education, about encouraging each other to be involved and to ask questions, and mostly suicide prevention is about offering hope. On that note, one of the most helpful websites that I have found is: http://metanoia.org/.  Specifically, the page “If you are thinking about suicide… read this first” http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/. From this website:...

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Mattering Matters

Posted by on Jul 12, 2014 in Anxiety, Blog, Christian Counseling, Depression, loneliness, Marital Counseling, Parenting, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Knowing that we matter to someone else is a need we all share and one that when met produces pleasant emotions.  With the realization that we matter in the life of another person comes the sense that we are valued, loved, known, included and wanted.  Mattering is particularly important if that other person is someone that matters to you. Marcheta P. Evans and Thelma Duffey wrote in a recent Counseling Today article on mattering, “We know we matter not only when our words, needs and opinions are seen as relevant to the other person, but...

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My Grieving Friend

Posted by on Jun 23, 2014 in Blog, grief, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Grief was a big part of my thought process over the last few days.  A dear friend of mine experienced a trauma that I can not even begin to understand.  She lost something so precious that it will change her forever.  Honestly, I think it will change me too.  At the very least, it has effected the way I express gratitude for even the smallest things.  What has struck me this week, though, is how grief is different in every situation.  As a counselor, I’ve been trained on how to counsel someone dealing with grief and I’ve put...

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Contentment

Posted by on Jun 14, 2014 in Anxiety, Blog, Christian Counseling, Depression, Uncategorized | 0 comments

One thing I have noticed come up a lot lately in conversations with others and in my own life is the issue of contentment. Contentment seems like this simple, easy concept, but it is extraordinarily difficult to practice. Now, when I say practicing contentment, I mean that it is something that we have to do, rather than something we have naturally. It is a choice that we make to be content with our lives as they are and to identify and find the joys and blessings that are already present. This involves a shift in our priorities and values,...

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A new identity….

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Anxiety, Blog, Christian Counseling, grief, Uncategorized | 0 comments

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”  2 Cor. 5:17 In scripture we read that we are gifted a new identity in Christ and we read it as such a wonderful and beautiful gift.  As we (I) approach the last day of the school year and I will be watching my children move to middle school and high school, I realize that gaining a new identity,while exciting and wonderful, also comes with trepidation and sadness.  To gain something new we must let go of the old....

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The Gift of Emotions

Posted by on May 30, 2014 in anger, Anxiety, Blog, Christian Counseling, Depression, grief, loneliness, Marital Counseling, Parenting, Uncategorized | 0 comments

It has been said that “emotions buried alive never die”.  If you are like me, you might say “yep, that make sense” but with no real understanding of how this concept is lived out in your own life.  So let’s talk about emotions. Some Christian literature talks about emotions as something to be controlled.  Some language gives the impression that many emotions are meant to be eradicated. I’d like to present an alternative view.  Emotions are a gift from God.  We know that God gives good gifts but I get the mental picture of...

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Anxiety in Children

Posted by on May 21, 2014 in Anxiety | 0 comments

As adults, we can monitor our feelings of anxiety and work to manage them. Children are often not cognitively capable enough yet to recognize feelings of anxiety, much less know how to control them. How does children’s anxiety manifest? Often it is by withdrawing, avoiding situations, or even acting out through tantrum behaviors or crying. It is distressing as a parent to experience a child who is anxious. We want to protect our children and minimize uncomfortable feelings for them. However, just as it is important to allow children to...

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